Tuesday, December 19, 2006

The year gone by….

It’s that time of the year when I tend to look back and wonder how different this year has been…one year is never the same as the other and this year too, I did things I’ve never done before, been to places I’ve never been before and met people I’ve never before…strangers turned to friends and friends to strangers….love to hate and hate to love…

Some of the prominent changes …

For the first time in my life, I am living away from home and enjoying it. Yes, it makes life a lot more interesting and teaches you to depend on yourself a lot. In a way, I think it makes you less dependant on others, especially if you choose to live on your own…the way I do, all on my own in a single BR….

I think I am getting used to the fact that friends can turn to strangers as time goes by…. It does hurt when it happens with someone you didn’t expect…or someone you were close to…but then, that is life… so, there are one or two – I wish they had the sense to talk it out instead of judging based on someone’s assumptions… if you don’t know what this means, I am not talking about you….

…to be continued….

Tuesday, November 21, 2006

The Eventful Year!

Last week when I went to worship, I found the church newsletter and picked up a copy. I found something both amusing and saddening on the first page of the newsletter.
Am producing it here with no edits:
Last year has been the most rewarding, eventful and successful period in the life and work of --- Church, .
The year has passed with creditable performance by successfully implementing most of the promises made before the election last year by the Pastorate Committee Members, who were elected to office on 31st July 2005. One year is not a long period but the Pastorate Committee has packed it with full of events realizing most of its electoral promises. The Electoral promises were converted as vision of the Pastorate Committee.
It is a success story of the Pastorate Committee, which is completing one year in office on 31st July 2006. The year in review has witnessed a number of developmental, progressive and new constructive programs for the glory of God. At the time of elections, the need of the hour was to restore peace in the Church. Accordingly, the Committee has successfully isolated litigants and un-social elements and truly restores much needed peace with the blessings and guidance of our Lord Jesus Christ, thus fulfilling the first promise made to the congregation before the elections.

Tuesday, November 7, 2006

Been a lot of pondering…

Another random thought:

If someone sat in the cab alone and said... the cab is full...all my other personalities are here too....

what would you do????

Friday, November 3, 2006

Ponder ponder....
"Stick no bill" - If an egret read this, would it ever think ..."these humans must be crazy...why would i ever wanna stick my bill on a wall!!!"

....just a random thought.....

Thursday, September 14, 2006

Time and rejection….

There was this soul on earth living within a cheerful lad. And even as everyone said he was so handsome and cheerful, his soul wasnt happy. No matter how much he tried, he could not lift his soul to a cheerful state. Even when he managed to be happy from within it lasted just for a little while before someone came along and bruised his soul.
Then one day, came a friend who tried to help him out. He refused to speak his heart out saying he didn't want to depend on anyone. But she was patient and had her way. He got to speak about his worries, his troubles, and every little thing. And so, the days went by....his soul was getting happier and he was happy too.
One day, as usual, his soul was pondering over something...something that made him feel agitated and so he called his friend. But she was too busy this time and told him he should not be expecting her to be able to talk 24 hours a day....and so, the soul came back bruised and battered....struggling to trust again...struggling with that something that was agitating...and so he was...back to square one.
On that fateful day, he made a decision that he would not depend on anyone else...and his soul too decided not too open up and share the thoughts within, with anyone else....
so, the days went by...gloomy and gray for him and his soul. It was indeed quite painful for him to get over his friend and her untimely rejection...well, is there a timely rejection???

Tuesday, August 29, 2006

Is it possible to park a train?

After yesterday’s journey I think it is quite possible to park a train in the middle of nowhere. Well, when I went to sleep last night around 10 pm, we were running on time. In fact, the train was ahead of schedule in a few stations. And then, when I wake up, we reach a station around 5:30 – according to schedule we should have been there around 2am!! So, instead of the scheduled four and a half hours to cover that distance, we took about eight hours…..so, what could have happened??? I can’t think of any other reason…
End result, instead of reaching Secunderabad at 5:15am we reach at 9am!!!

Sunday, August 27, 2006

When I die

It is a bright sunny morning. I am in Chennai for a long weekend – been here since Thursday. As always, days are flying by – not just when I am in Chennai. Its has been this way ever since I moved to Hyderabad.
In the past week, I’ve heard about deaths and sicknesses – am not talking about the newspapers- and now I cant help but wonder what would it be like – when I die
I hope death doesn’t take away my near and dear ones – all too soon before I reach a certain stage in life. For al the detachment, there are things for which I want them to be around.
Am sure people would say the nice things. Death – in its own way – makes people think of the nice things. If only that could happen when the person is living!!
I still wonder what people would say when I die. There are a lot of things I can guess – given the fact that I have plenty of opportunities to get feedback. But then does it really matter? It doesn’t. Even in life, am not a person who would labor over each comment. So, why am I writing this? It was a thought and I guess I was in a writing mood.

[truth is, I need some silence. Something got messed up and I don’t want to be showing my anger and annoyance on those around me. A notebook and papers in hand makes everyone leave me alone. So here I am, in my own home, pretending as if am working on something official while all am doing is, pouring my thoughts]

I apologize

I apologize for the times I’ve given advice – unasked for
I apologize for the times I’ve misunderstood you – not giving you a chance to explain
I apologize for taking up your time – you could have spent it doing something better
I apologize for the times I have contacted you – when I don’t know what to do.
I apologize – for anything and everything

One more depressing start to a supposedly beautiful day – all because I messed up a friendship.
11AM, Sunday, August 27, 2006

Monday, August 14, 2006

My li’l bro…

...has grown up :O

well, more than often I have to remind myself that he is not a kid anymore...it happens quite a few times. Maybe, because he is the kid at home ...maynbe coz he behaves that way !!!
Still, I have been reminding myself quite a few times over the past few days....coz he is starting his work life today....am so very glad for him....
am sure he thought i am nuts when I was asking him about everything - right from his clothes to things to be taken on the first day...
call it protective, call it whatever.... That is what I am....and I guess he would always be my li'l bro

Tuesday, June 27, 2006

Google and Tsunami

I found this post in one of my earlier blogs


Google has become synonymous with web search. Often, we read about the change in the page ranking mechanism, the change in the number of pages crawled by the search engine and so on. In my current job, we heavily rely on Google to check for names, places, terminologies, and just about any entity which is not clear in the fax. Over the years, I find that I have my own set of tips for better search results and on deriving a conclusion over the various searches. For example, if there is a doubt over a word usage and Merriam Websters does not have that word simply because it is a new word, or because it is another business expression I would check the word in Google and the higher the hits, the more the usage. For example, the word “Screenshot”. This word wasn’t found in Websters, but we use that often. So what do I do? I check in Google for single word and 2 words. I would go for whichever returns the greater number of hits.
But, in spite of this, I wasn’t aware of the patterns that could be found in such searches. The most recent example was my search for the word “tsunami”. Just 2 days after the disaster, I was trying to collect information about it, and the search returned approx 4 million hits. Two or three few days later, as I was browsing, I impulsively tried the search again, and guess what I found? This time it was around 7 million hits. Till now, I have no clue as to where I got this idea of checking for the number of hits. About a week after the disaster, it was at 17,500,000. I was amazed at this kind of increase in the number of hits. I had expected to go up, but never expected it to be so much. Ten days after the disaster it came to 20,500,000. Today, January 11, 2005 – just over 2 weeks – it is at 27 million hits.
How far would it go? Will have to wait and see.
Well the upward trend continues and just 2 days later, January 13, it is at 30 million pages. I am now quite positive of seeing a tenfold increase before the month is over.
Today – January 21, 2005 – it is at 37,700,000


....that was the post... I chked it today and guess what ...it is at 105,000,000 (June 27, 2006)

Reminds me of myself

Lyrics from "I am" of Hillary Duff... Can't help but think it's about me. So much like me....there are some who think am an angel and there are others who think I am such a pain in life... I know I can be both....
A big thank you for those who think I am wonderful and a bigger sorry for those who find me a pain....

I'm an angel, I'm a devil
I am sometimes in between
I'm as bad it can get
And good as it can be
Sometimes I'm a million colors
Sometimes I'm black and white
I am all extremes
Try figure me out you never can
There's so many things I am

I am special
I am beautiful
I am wonderful
I'm powerful
Unstoppable
Sometimes I'm miserable
Sometimes I'm pitiful
But that's so typical of all the things I am

I'm someone filled with self-belief
I'm haunted by self-doubt
I've got all the answers
I've got nothing figured out
I like to be by myself
I hate to be alone
I'm up and I am down
But that's part of the thrill
Part of the plan
Part of all of the things I am

I am special
I am beautiful
I am wonderful
I'm powerful
Unstoppable
Sometimes I'm miserable
Sometimes I'm pitiful
But that's so typical of all the things I am

I'm a million contradictions
Sometimes I make no sense
Sometimes I'm perfect
Sometimes I'm a mess
Sometimes I'm not sure who I am

I am special
I am beautiful
I am wonderful
And powerful
Unstoppable
Sometimes I'm miserable
Sometimes I'm pitiful
But that's so typical of all the things I am
--

Monday, June 26, 2006

Have you ever wondered…

If there was someone like you, would you talk to that person?

Am not talking about the way you look...am talking about the real person...the person without the mask you wear for the world.

If you met someone like that, Would you talk?

Think about it....

Thursday, June 1, 2006

Letting go….

One of the hardest things to do on earth - Letting go. For some it is easier than the rest, nevertheless, I don't think it is really easy for anyone - to shrug off and let go. There have been times I've had to let go. Am sure all of us would have gone through this - but do you struggle as much as I do or not, I'd never know. As for myself, I struggle each time I go through this. The last time I struggled as much as I am now, was a few years ago. Quite unfortunately, there are too many similarities and I can only hope I would pull through the way I did last time. There is something that comforts me a lot this time - the person I let go last time is a good pal now.
Will it happen again? I will have to wait for that...through it all....

Friday, May 26, 2006

Me and My Defense Attorney

Sounds great, huh? Really it’s nothing great...am talking about me and myself! Oh ya, at times i do feel like my own defense attorney. Many a time, I have to really defend myself - say regarding the way I am, the way I do things, what I do, how I live and so on...
Finding myself quite often in the minority doesn’t help! Take for example, something as simple as calling home can make people raise eyebrows. Now I don’t call home everyday. I call only when I need to. A simple thing as this puzzles many. Why? Because you are expected to stay in touch with your folks each and every day – or at least that is the norm.
I have the same issue with my choice of entertainment – any day I would choose a book over a movie and the internet (includes blogging, info search, mail, chat, etc) over the TV. As a result of which I can count the number of movies I have watched over the past few years and the same goes for the number of hours I have spent in front of the television. This again is quite incomprehensible to quite a lot of people.
And how can I forget the oft repeated question of late – “how can you stay all alone?” These days many of my pals wonder how on earth am I staying alone – the questions range from concerns about boredom to queries about managing on my own, things like how do I manage, what do I do over the weekend and so on…mystifies a many. And when I say I like it this way, the responses vary from simple shrugs to concerned queries.
Well, a girl staying on her own isn’t commonplace yet – but what’s wrong? Am sure there isn’t anything strange in it. Just because it isn’t the well-trodden path doesn’t mean something’s wrong.
I would say all these happen because people find it hard to accept something that moves away from the general trend. General perception is that something’s wrong and it should be reasoned out!!! I’ve had a number of friends who have tried to reason out things – all the while refusing to see the other side of the coin.
Thankfully, or rather quite fortunately, I have found a few people like me – like the proverbial drops in the ocean….

Thursday, May 18, 2006

It was one of those days….

I really don’t know what happened to me last evening. I left work at 8:30pm – tired and exhausted – looking forward to the comfort of this space I call home. I need to mention, I had one of those not-so-pleasant conversations earlier in the evening.
I was really trying very hard to convince someone who thinks I am convinced that I am not confused and that I am really happy. Ironically, the book am reading right now has also deals with a psychiatrist who is convinced that her patient is delusional and the patient is trying to convince her that he is not!!! In the story, he manages to convince the psychiatrist.
After a long day, this didn’t do much to make the day any better. I got out of office to a very windy Hyderabad, cooler temperature… it was quite pleasant when I got home.
After I left the doors and windows open, I felt supercharged …. I felt like a kid – singing away to glory, dancing, even spinning around only to stop and feel the ground moving beneath me…
Must be the wind…

Wednesday, May 17, 2006

Dreams…. Coming alive!!!

Today my day began pretty much the normal way...I got up earlier than I had to, and so just lay for a while reading a book, got ready - again ahead of time. So, I took the book again to read. Quite an interesting story - a doctor working on a top secret project finds his friend dead, suspects murder. There is this lady in charge of security and monitors all people working on the project. As she goes through the list of possessions found in the office of the dead man - she finds various things.... among them she finds a "cobra fang".... that made me sit upright.
You wanna know why? At that very moment I remembered a dream I'd had...rather I remember a part of it. I am looking at different fangs of a snake and at the end, I see them all combined together. That is all I remember of the dream....
Really have no idea why am having such dreams....

Monday, May 15, 2006

My Newfound Freedom

Let me state it for the benefit of those who don't know it - I am on my own now. Ya, after living for more than 2 decades with my parents am out in the wild for the past few months. Not a great thing, but then it is something I am really enjoying. I started off by living in an apartment with 2 of my collegues. From the beginning of this month, I am on my own. It is a dream come true. I have always wanted to live on my own - to have my own space (not just a room!!), to own that space and do all that I want to do.
There are a few things that are incomprehensible for some people. Quite often I get questions like What do you do all day over the weekend?, do you stay quiet all day?, don't you get bored? Don't you want company? and so on...
For me, staying on my own is a great thing to do. I would rather have my own space and live on my own than live with someone else and share my space. I love to go to a silent home - a place where I can do anything I wanna do, anytime, and anyway
You might even think I am a loner - at times I do think so myself. I know that not many people can tolerate silence - or rather they can't be by themselves. They need the company of others irrespective of whether those around them are likeminded, and so on. But then, they would be likeminded coz ll of these people would not want to be left alone. I would say it is quite important to be comfortable with yourself and do things on your own. For me, that is how I think I grow - by doing things on my own and not depending on others. Does that shout Individualistic? Ya, I think that is something good.
So, when someone finds it odd that I can stay on my own, I find it odd that someone can't be comfortable being on their on their own. How can you be always dependent on another's presence? How can you not be happy with yourself?
As for me, I am enjoying my newfound freedom - enjoying to the limits...:)

Wednesday, May 10, 2006

No time?

"Never say that you have no time.
On the whole it is those who are busiest who can make time for yet more,
and those who have more leisure time who refuse to do something when asked.
What we lack is not time, but heart."
- Henri Boulard

This is what I tell people when they say they have no time. I did come across something similar in a book. It goes like this "...those who are in the relatively more advanced stages of spritual growthare the very ones most aware of their own laziness" - The Road Less Travelled, Scott Peck

How true? So, the next time you think you are packed to the limit, just stop for a minute and think. Think of how much more you can do, think not of how much you are doing right now. Think of all those things that need to be done, think not of all that you have achieved.
Well, I suppose it should be like this - When you aren't happy with what you have, think of those who do not have what you do. and when you are feeling content with what you are doing right now, look at those who do a lot more and more importantly, look at how much needs to be done.
Then, am sure you would never say, "I have done so much so let me rest."